With all these social websites out now a days like Twitter, MySpace, and Facebook and I am sure plenty of others that I never even heard of, it is becoming easier than ever to find old friends and acquaintances from all times in your life. But when you sit back and think about it...is everyone really "your friend." The thing that made me think of this was the fact that I received a friend request on Facebook from someone that, last time I remember, we really weren't friends anymore. And I don't mean that we just lost contact, I mean that I really don't think we were friends anymore, no particular reason. At first I thought "why in the world is this person requesting me as a friend?" Maybe she thinks we are friends? Maybe she is just curious to see what I am doing with myself? And what am I supposed to do now that I have this request?
Then I thought about it. And you know what? I think I am just as guilty of this!!! I have sent friend requests to old friends from high school or the neighborhood that I grew up in, but are we really friends? The truth of the matter is that I was never the "most popular" kid - I am not even the most popular adult. But I am happy with that and I am lucky enough to have some of the greatest friends on the planet! I am also lucky enough to have had a great childhood and love the idea of getting back in touch with some of my old friends. Realistically though, what are my expectations? Were we ever really were in the first place? Are they thinking about me what I am thinking about this one friend request that I received? I actually feel a little ridiculous!
I think in the grand scheme of things we are all guilty in this. All these social networking sites make it so easy. You see someone you know and you think to yourself, "wonder what they are up to now?" Out goes the friend request, they remember you too and accept, you may or may not exchange some friendly hellos and how are yous, and then that's it. You never hear from them again, you may see a post come up every now and then on your profile, you may exchange commentary but that is typically the end of it. Its like a tease! I would really like to hear from more people and be friends with everybody but realistically I know that is not possible. People grow up and change and life takes over.
In the days after receiving this friend request, a couple of my friends as well as my husband had the same experiences. People just "popping up" that you probably wouldn't even think of looking for in the first place or who would think were looking for you! On Facebook alone I have 187 "friends" - I can assure you that only a handful are really my friends. Thank goodness I gave up Twitter and never got into MySpace.com!
I really don't have any advice or anything on this topic but I just wanted put it out there. Please don't be offended because I love hearing from 99.9% of the people that I do come in contact with. I actually wish I could hear from more people and have more correspondence. I am currently trying to put together a reunion with all of my friends and my husband's friends from childhood and old jobs etc. But after that I think I am going to go through my friend list and be more realistic about my choices. If you read up to this point I thank you for allowing me to rattle on about this topic. Maybe I will see you on Facebook :-)